Blue Ballad

Talking ‘bout relationship, whatever kind of relationship it is, I think there are several things that should be noted.

1. First, we should try to trust each other. Being not able to trust others, you would never feel comfortable in a community; you would even feel restless almost every time, how come? It’s simply because you can’t trust your surroundings.

2. Here goes the second one, prepare to jot this down, guys! SYMPHATY and EMPHATY! They are in capital; don’t ever say you don’t notice this one. Please know that humans may look strong from the outside, but they may be very delicate inside. That’s why, please, respect people when they are talking; try to appreciate other people’s idea. If this criterion alone you can’t fulfill, I don’t really think you deserve being human.

3. It’s up to you ‘bout whatever decision you want to make. You may act selfish, indifferent, deceitful, or else. I don’t really care, but please, be responsible for it. If you don’t do so, you really are one sore loser and I HATE this kind of people a hell lot. They are a heck lot of people out there who tend to make decision in a rush, but when they realize that their decision to act so has gone wrong, they know how to apologize. Yeah, unlike some people who really act big, but when something happen, they can’t even open their mouth just to say sorry. The mouth of a loser I suppose.

Yup, I only list three points. Now, why did I post this kind of stuff? Well, I just got stuck again in very depressing situation. Should I tell you guys ‘bout this? I think so. Let’s begin then. Last Wednesday on 5^th of October, I was asked to be an MC in a youth fellowship at my church on 14^th October, which simply means a day before I typed this thing down. I agreed to it despite of my hellish schedule. Of course, I should prepare some songs and decided to practice twice. The second was on 14^th also, just before the fellowship started. Tell me now, if you are asked to lead a fellowship, do you really like to be bothered during your preparation? I bet for ‘no.’ Yes, I was doing my preparation before the fellowship started and here came this bossy person out of nowhere sending me SMS to do this and that. “Bring the mat with you, bring this and that… ask for this and that… do this and that…” Honestly, if I were not a Christian, I would simply ask her to do all those stupid errands herself. Man, there were a heck lot of people other than me that could be asked back then, and out of all people, why it should be me? Some people in this world are indeed idiot, eh?  Okay, let’s go on. The worse thing was that, this bossy person has several subordinates, but she didn’t send even one person to come early to make sure things. Whenever you have a party, it’s absurdly common for you to send people or come yourself to make sure things are prepared, right? It doesn’t take a genius to think so. Man… Some people in this world really have a hole in their brain that they can’t think well. And out of all kinds of people that you can find in this world, there’ this person with problem to think well being a leader of a committee. If you ever heard about leading people to walk to a pit, this kind of situation really depicts one. The fellowship? The fellowship was late, the sound system was not well prepared, etc, etc. Thanks to our great leader. Then, after a long messy day, was I disappointed back then? No way… how come? … I WAS FURIOUS for God’s sake! This bossy person came late yesterday and she didn’t even say sorry for being late! She just felt fine with her lateness and even gave a smile on paper when she left us a message on a piece of paper to tell in advance that she would be late, “Aku bakal telat ” Heck! What the…? The very characteristic of Indonesian people. They never really feel guilty whenever they are late. Yeah, that’s why this country is turning into a garbage bin with a hell lot of jerk inside.

Now, for whoever feeling responsible for this (yeah, this time, there should really be someone responsible for this whole lot mess!), don’t say that I didn’t take your feeling into account when I was typing this one, I did so! But hell, if I didn’t type so, I would definitely doubt your repentance, remorse, or whatever. You and your bossy attitude, do you really think they are acceptable? Hell no! Think of those people you have been ordering around up to today! Out of those people, find out how many people got annoyed because of your attitude? Out of those people, find out how many people feel that they go disrespected? After you’ve figured ‘em out, try to find a mirror, not a physical one though, and ask yourself if you have been doing something pleasing to God or else. Lemme remind you, Bible says that, “Each thing that you have done for others, you have done it for Me.” Know this at least, dress yourself with better attitudes. Try to be empathetic with others’ feeling. You may be trusted to be a leader of an organization, but it doesn’t mean you can act big, doesn’t really mean you can be that bossy and arrogant, doesn’t really mean you are better or smarter than others, doesn’t mean that you are always right, doesn’t really mean that the people you trust are always right while others are not, and doesn’t mean you can put blame on others That’s all. And you know what? Don’t ever think of talking to me about ‘coordination and uniting minds’ when you have this kind of mess among your subordinates. That will just go bullshit. One last thing, if I ever see you lead this fellowship to the wrong way, I’ll takeover things. Clear? Yes!

Note: for people out there, being a leader doesn’t make you great. It indeed puts you on a higher position. For what purpose? Note this one, so that you can see things better and UNDERSTAND your subordinates better. Stop being a jerk and start to be humble, you don’t do this then you fit the very definition of jerk.

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